What comes after “Here comes the bride”?

You’ve been married for a few years, maybe more, maybe less. Communication and love are more important than ever between you and your partner, but it’s easy to fall into some ruts and bad habits, relying on the spark of love (or something else) to see you through.

Getting MarriedDon’t settle for bad habits of speaking to one another.

Sandra shares a real-life warning story why.

Use these six questions for a healthier way of loving and serving your partner.

Let Sharon encourage you with her piece, “Why My Husband of Three Years and I Go To Marriage Counseling.”

 

Photo by JD Hancock. Used with permission. Sourced by Flickr.

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Married people’s work

When you’re married, you have the joy of an intimate relationship. Sometimes, though, that relationship takes a little work to cherish the love and to reach understanding.

Take, “It’s Not About the Nail” for instance:

Use “Home Improvement Project” to think through the way you are communicating with your partner.

Or, consider these findings about the power of prayer on intimate relationships.

Looking for a resource to use? Check out this review of the book How to Turn Your Marriage Around in 10 Days by Philip Wagner. It just may be the sort of thing you’re looking for.

 

This post share stories, resources, and ideas on how to improve communication between married partners.

Marriage

At Christ Community Church, we’re finishing up The Marriage Course from Alpha, so this week all of our links have to do with married life: love, communication in conflict, and the road to ruin– if you don’t pay attention.

What does love look like way down the line, when one of you is slipping away? Learn and see in Bill and Glad’s short video.

What might keep you from that long lasting love? Watch for the “four things that kill relationships.”

Looking for some ways to utilize technology in your relationship building? Check out these Apps for Married Couples gathered by Simple Marriage.

This post provides resources, inspiration and challenges for our communication, commitment and use of technology in marriage.

Making prayer natural

Relevant Magazine ran a piece called “Why is Prayer So Hard?” by John Dwyer. He writes,

the good news is that prayer is not an item that can be ticked off on a to-do list. And there is freedom in recognizing this.

Check out the rest of the article to learn about praying freely.

We all say, “I’ll pray for you” and then many of us forget to carry through. Here’s a beautiful example of being intentional about using your everyday life activities as a reminder to pray for others: “My praxis of prayer” by Kelley Nikondeha.

If you are married and you and your partner share a common faith, then he or she is a natural prayer partner. This post from Simple Marriage can help you pray for and with one another in a way that gets you talking, thinking and lifting others up to God.

 

This post provides resources and inspirational/challenging stories about the habit of prayer for adults.

Married life isn’t always a cake walk.

So here’s some things to help. The links today all intersect married life and themes from messages at Christ Community Church over the last six months.

First, here’s a great (and true!) story entitled, “The Revenge of the Proverbs 31 Woman.” It hits on themes of mentoring, honesty, respect, and the community’s role in marriages. The Sunday message that relates: “The ABC’s of Wisdom.”

Next, here’s a challenge for husbands to think small as they love their wives. As Doug says,

Let me set the record straight–size DOES matter.
Research points to the fact that women prefer small.

Last Sunday’s sermon was on the Parable of the Mustard Seed. It dealt with how the smallest and most insignificant things are used by God for something much greater.

And if praying with your partner is something you would like to do (or to do better), Simple Marriage has some helpful tips and suggestions in “Powerful Partner Prayer.” There were audio difficulties the Sunday we talked about marriage from the book of Proverbs at CCC, so there’s no link to share.

This post was created for married adults and touches on themes of relationships, communication, prayer, service, attitude and lifestyle.

When God leads love another way

It was supposed to be a momentous occasion—the day I would walk down the aisle in my mother’s lace wedding gown, peonies in hand, best friend at my side, family and friends looking on with joy. It was supposed to be the day I started a new chapter, the day my dreams would be fulfilled. Little did I know, God had other plans.

The Holy Spirit is speaking to you about your relationships. Are you listening?

Read M. Connor’s story about loving and losing while faithfully following Christ.

 

This story is meant for adults who are thinking about dating, relationships, marriage and singleness.