Sex, Intimacy, Singleness, and a whole big mess

Pastor Chelsey wrote an article for our denominational magazine’s July issue (The Banner) entitled “Single and Sexual: As God Created Us.” In it, she offers some practical advice and tries to help us navigate between the truth and the false expectations given to the various kinds of people who find themselves as single adults.

The Banner published another article in tandem with Pastor Chelsey’s that may prove to challenge what you believe about sex, marriage, and the Church’s position. The thoughts expressed in “Where Do We Draw the Line?” do not represent the position of the Christian Reformed Church or of Christ Community Church in Nanaimo, but they can serve as a catalyst for you to decide where you draw the line in faithfulness to God’s Word and call to integrity, as well as lead you to wonder what role the community plays in drawing lines for one another.

As you may be able to imagine, an article that questions basic moral positions in the Church has caused quite a stir (the comments section attests to the mess.) But you’re likely to get into a mess dealing with such a sensitive topic, and the Spirit of God can be found in the hospitality as well as conflict. You can read both articles (or just Pastor Chelsey’s lead article) on the page “Sex, Intimacy, and the Single Person.” 

Then, you can read an encouraging story of a young woman trying to live with integrity within her sexuality: Olympic athlete, Lolo Jones.


This post shares stories, inspiration, encouragement and a challenge on the way we think about singleness, sexuality and sex in the Christian life.

You can’t avoid the ‘birds and the bees’ forever

Nor is talking about sex something you should want to avoid with your children and teenagers.

Erica Schemper shares her thoughts about parenting, sexuality and Christianity in this muddied world. She writes,

recent events remind me that I can’t just teach my kids a list of dos and don’ts. If I leave it at that, it’s quite possible that they miss the point that sex is a good thing, and that there’s an enormous distinction between healthy sexuality and sexual abuse and violence.

Read more here.

Corey Allan encourages parents to use the opportunities to talk about sex with their children when they naturally arise in “How to talk to your children about sex.”

Fuller Youth Institute offers an audio seminar on talking to teens about sex, hosted by Kara Powell.

The Christian Reformed Church has this resource for parents, teens and youth groups as well: “Driver’s Training for Dating: Sex and Intimacy for Healthy Relationships.”


This post shares resources and a challenge for parents to engage their children and teens in meaningful conversation about sex, dating, healthy sexuality and relationships.

The Dangers Within: Lust

Sculpture: Deadly SinsThe last of the Seven Deadly Sins for us to consider is lust.

Lust is a challenge for both men and women, as “Confessions of a Lustful Christian Woman” by Jonalyn Fincher illustrates.

Adam Holz offers some good thoughts on the role of the community in regards to dealing with this sin. Given our deep desire to keep our lustful thoughts private, we’d do well to listen.

GroundWork Media finishes up their series on the Seven Deadly Sins with this episode on lust.

And just in case you haven’t come across this online resource, be sure to check out XXX Church’s website for programs, resources, stories and much more to support men, women, teens, families, and churches through porn addiction recovery.


This post is for adults and provides resources and challenges that pertain to lust, sex, pornography, and our thoughts.

Photo by See-ming Lee. Used with permission. Sourced by Flickr.